My executives consistently bring peer-related complaints to me behind closed doors instead of confronting each other. How do I kill this executive triangulation and force direct accountability?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

When executives complain to you about their peers in private, they are using you as an emotional buffer because they lack the courage for direct conflict. Every time you listen to a grievance, offer sympathy, or attempt to fix the problem on their behalf, you validate triangulation and weaken your leadership team.

Kill this behavior by adopting a zero-tolerance policy. The next time an executive closes your office door to complain about another leader, stop them immediately and ask one question: Have you shared this exact feedback directly with them yet? If the answer is no, end the conversation on the spot and instruct them to address the issue directly with their colleague within twenty-four hours.

If the issue persists or involves cross-departmental operations, require them to log it on the Issues List for the weekly Level 10 Meeting. Use IDS to solve it in front of the entire team. Bring the underlying conflict into the light where root causes can be identified without political theater.

Finally, lead by example during quarterly offsites. Run an open, constructive feedback loop where leaders directly tell each other what they need to start, stop, and continue doing to make the company stronger. High-performing leadership teams achieve results at the speed of trust. Trust cannot grow in an organization where leaders lobby the boss instead of challenging their peers face-to-face.