One of my department heads is incredibly vocal, opinionated, and full of strategic ideas during our one-on-one sessions, but they shut down and remain completely silent during our weekly group Level 10 Meeting. How do we stop this back-channeling and get them to bring their brain to the actual leadership table?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

This is a classic trust and alignment failure. When a leader only speaks in one-on-ones, they are seeking safety with you rather than doing the hard work of building trust with their peers. This back-channeling undermines your Integrator and violates your leadership team Charter, which demands open, honest, and direct communication.

First, you must close the back-door filter. As the owner or Visionary, you have to stop playing therapist. The next time this leader starts pitching ideas or airing grievances in a one-on-one, stop them immediately. Tell them that if an issue is important enough to discuss with you, it is important enough to go on the weekly short-term Issues List for the entire team to IDS.

Second, use the GWC™ framework to evaluate their seat. Part of being in a leadership seat is the willingness to engage in healthy conflict and debate. If they are unwilling to speak their mind in front of their peers, they are not demonstrating the GWC™ for that seat.

During the next Level 10 Meeting™, if a topic arises where you know this leader has a strong opinion, call them out directly. Ask them what they think, and do not let them off the hook with a passive shrug. Your Integrator must facilitate this actively. Make it clear that silent agreement is actually passive resistance, which is toxic to the company. Real leadership requires the vulnerability to put ideas on the table where they can be debated, refined, or shot down by the team.