Our leadership team ratings are consistently high, but when we have a genuinely tense and highly argumentative IDS® session that yields a great solution, the team rates the meeting a 5 or 6 because they hate the conflict. How do we recalibrate their understanding of a good meeting rating?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Many leadership teams confuse a comfortable meeting with a productive one. If your team rates a meeting poorly simply because the discussion was tense or argumentative, they are showing a fear of conflict. True traction requires a healthy dose of constructive friction.

You must recalibrate what an eight, nine, or ten rating actually means. A great Level 10 Meeting™ is one where the team was open and honest, followed the agenda, solved the most critical issues permanently, and left on the same page. If you spend ninety minutes politely agreeing with each other and solving nothing, that is a failed meeting, even if everyone felt comfortable.

To fix this, redefine the rating criteria. Instruct your team that a high score requires healthy debate. If they rate a meeting lower because of tension, ask them if the issue was solved. If the root cause was identified, discussed, and solved, explain that the tension was necessary and healthy.

Encourage the team to embrace conflict as a tool for progress. Remind them of your operational charter, which values solving issues completely over maintaining artificial comfort. Once the team understands that healthy debate is the only way to protect the business and prepare it for an exit, they will start rating the effectiveness of the solutions rather than the comfort of the conversation.