My sibling sits on our leadership team, but they consistently miss Rocks and underperform. The rest of the team treats them with kid gloves because they fear retribution. How do I address a struggling family member on the leadership team objectively?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Family dynamics cannot be allowed to pollute the Accountability Chart. When a family member receives special treatment, misses deadlines without consequence, or skates by on poor performance, it destroys peer accountability and breeds cynicism across the entire leadership team.

The solution begins with you. You must establish a clear boundary between family status and business expectations. Make an explicit announcement to your leadership team, with your sibling present, that blood relations do not grant immunity. State clearly that every member of the leadership team is held to the identical standard of Core Values and GWC.

Next, evaluate your sibling using the People Analyzer tool. If they are consistently missing Rocks, their capacity or desire to do the job is in question. Sit down with them privately outside of regular family gatherings. Treat the conversation exactly as you would with any other executive. Lay out the missed deliverables, show the impact on the Scorecard, and give clear, measurable expectations for turnaround.

If they cannot meet the requirements of the seat, you have a duty to the business to remove them from that seat. Offer them a non-leadership position if they GWC it, or help them transition out of the business altogether.

If you refuse to hold a family member accountable, you will lose your best non-family executives. High performers do not stay in environments where family privilege outweighs capability and performance.