My sibling sits on our leadership team, but they are consistently missing their Rocks and the other directors are afraid to hold them accountable because of our family dynamic. How do we remove the family bias and enforce strict accountability on the leadership team when a relative is underperforming?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Family dynamics on a leadership team can be highly toxic if they are not managed with strict boundaries. When other directors see a family member getting a pass for poor performance, it destroys the credibility of your Accountability Chart and breeds deep resentment across the entire executive team.

To fix this, you must establish a clear rule: inside the walls of the business, family relationships do not exist. Everyone is a professional colleague, and everyone is held to the exact same standards of accountability.

First, have a private conversation with your sibling. Explain that their underperformance is putting the business, and your personal relationship, at risk. Clarify that they must lead by example and that their performance will be scrutinized even more closely to prevent any perception of favoritism.

Second, empower the rest of your leadership team to call out the issues. During your Level 10 Meeting, any missed Rocks or off-track scorecard metrics must be put on the IDS list. If the team is hesitant to push your sibling, you must step in and model the behavior by asking the tough questions yourself.

Evaluate your sibling objectively using the GWC tool. If they do not Get It, Want It, or have the Capacity to do the job at this level of growth, they must be transitioned out of that seat. Protecting an underperforming family member is a disservice to the company and ultimately ruins the family dynamic at home.