When we push hard to find the root cause of an issue during the IDS® portion of our Level 10 Meeting™, the conversation often turns personal, and leaders start getting highly defensive or shutting down completely. How do we maintain a high-conflict, high-truth environment during IDS® without destroying our team cohesion?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Healthy conflict is the lifeblood of a great Level 10 Meeting™. If your team is not digging deep and having uncomfortable debates during IDS®, you are not solving your real problems. However, if these debates turn into personal attacks, leaders will become defensive and shut down, which destroys trust.

To maintain a high-conflict, high-truth environment without destroying cohesion, you must separate the person from the issue. The facilitator must establish a ground rule: we attack the problem, we never attack the person.

When a leader gets defensive, it is usually because they feel their personal capability or character is under fire. To de-escalate this, redirect the focus of the conversation back to the Accountability Chart. Frame the issue around the seat, the process, or the metric, not the individual.

For example, instead of asking why a leader failed to hit their target, ask what obstacles in their seat are preventing the process from succeeding. This subtle shift in language removes the personal sting and allows the team to look at the problem objectively.

Additionally, the facilitator must call out defensiveness in real time. If a leader starts making excuses or shooting down ideas, say: 'We are not looking for blame here. We are looking for a solution. Let us focus on how we solve this for the good of the organization.'

By keeping the discussion objective and focused on the health of the company, you create a safe environment where leaders can be vulnerable, admit mistakes, and collaborate on real solutions without fear of judgment.