We are preparing for our next quarterly leadership offsite, but there is so much unresolved personal friction between our sales and operations heads that I am afraid the meeting will be a waste of time. How do we structure the offsite to force healthy conflict and rebuild peer trust?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

An offsite with deep, unresolved personal friction cannot just be a standard planning session. If your sales and operations heads are quietly at war, trying to set long-term strategy is useless. You must address the human foundation first. Cracks at the leadership level will always appear as canyons to the rest of the organization. Begin your offsite by dedicating the first block of time to building trust and vulnerability. Use a simple exercise like personal histories where team members share where they grew up, how many siblings they have, and their first job. This breaks down defensive walls and reminds everyone they are on the same team. Next, address the conflict head-on. Do not let passive-aggressive comments slide. Use the IDS™ process to isolate the root cause of the friction between sales and operations. Is it a structural issue on the Accountability Chart, or is it a lack of personal trust? Force them to air their grievances in a controlled, professional environment where the focus is on solving the issue for the good of the company, not winning the argument. A healthy, cohesive team requires unfiltered, constructive conflict. If your leaders cannot engage in passionate debate and commit to decisions during the offsite, they will never execute cohesively when they return to the office.