Our head of technology is a brilliant leader who hits every single one of their Rocks and keeps our infrastructure running flawlessly. However, during our IDS® sessions, their aggressive and dismissive tone leaves their peers feeling battered. They claim they are just being direct and focusing on results. How do we handle this emotional wake?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

A high-performing leader with a high emotional wake is a liability, not an asset. When a leader uses directness as an excuse for being dismissive or disrespectful, they crush the psychological safety of your leadership team. Peers will stop sharing issues, collaboration will stall, and decision-making will suffer because the team wants to avoid being attacked.

You must address this behavior as a core values issue, not a performance issue. In EOS®, fit is just as important as competence. A leader who GWC™'s their seat but violates your core values is a cultural misfit who will eventually destroy your team's trust.

Sit down with your head of technology for a private coaching session. Explain that their technical execution is outstanding, but their delivery during meetings is causing significant collateral damage. Use specific examples of their behavior and describe the impact it has on the team.

Help them understand that healthy conflict is focused on ideas, not people. Directness is valuable when it is paired with respect and curiosity. If they are constantly shutting down their peers with intellectual dominance, they are not helping the company solve issues, they are simply managing their own status.

Give them a clear, measurable expectation for improvement. For example, they must ask at least two clarifying questions before offering a counterargument during IDS® sessions.

If they refuse to adjust their behavior and continue to leave a destructive emotional wake, you must make a hard choice. No level of technical brilliance justifies destroying the trust of your leadership team.