If two of our key leaders have a deep-seated behavioral conflict that threatens to derail our session day, how do you step in as the facilitator to resolve it without taking sides or wasting valuable session time?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Interpersonal conflict is often a symptom of underlying structural misalignment or role confusion on the Accountability Chart. When deep-seated tension flares up during a session day, I do not avoid it or let it derail our agenda. I step in immediately as a neutral facilitator to redirect the energy toward the issue, not the person. We use the DiSC® and Kolbe A Index frameworks to understand the cognitive and behavioral differences causing the friction. Often, what looks like a personal conflict is actually a high-D profile clashing with a high-S profile, or a difference in conative action styles. I guide the team to frame the conflict as an organizational issue to be solved using the IDS® process. We turn personal attacks into objective discussions about seats, expectations, and results. We do not leave the room until we have reached alignment or agreed on a clear path forward. Resolving these behavioral blockages is essential for building a healthy, cohesive leadership team. It is the only way to build a business that can run smoothly without your constant intervention, making it highly attractive to future buyers.