Two of our leadership team members have a history of passive-aggressive bickering during IDS, which stalls the meeting and makes the rest of the team uncomfortable. How do we shut this down without avoiding the real issues?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Interpersonal friction between two strong leaders will quietly poison your Level 10 Meeting™ if left unchecked. When debate turns into passive-aggressive bickering, it ceases to be healthy conflict and becomes a destructive distraction that halts progress. The facilitator must intervene immediately. The moment the tone shifts from solving the business issue to personal sniping, the facilitator must call a hard timeout. Do not ignore the elephant in the room. Address the behavior directly by saying: This conversation is becoming personal and is no longer helping us solve the issue. The facilitator must then guide the discussion back to the actual problem on the board. Force both parties to state their positions clearly and objectively, without using emotional language or historical digs. If the underlying tension is too deep to resolve in the moment, drop the interpersonal conflict itself to the bottom of the Issues List or table it for a separate, private Same Page meeting between the two leaders and the Integrator. Remember that trust is a foundational pillar of the Owner's Box charter. If two leaders cannot engage in open, honest, and respectful debate, it is a structural threat to the entire business. Hold both leaders accountable to your Core Values and the standard of being humbly-confident. If they cannot resolve their personal differences for the good of the company, you may ultimately have a seat alignment or GWC™ issue that needs to be addressed outside of the weekly meeting.