Our sales director and our marketing director are constantly complaining about each other to our Integrator, who is spending hours playing referee. This sibling-rivalry dynamic is slowing down our leadership team. How do we force peer-to-peer resolution?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

When an Integrator acts as a referee, they are enabling weak leadership. It allows department heads to avoid difficult conversations and prevents the team from building true peer-to-peer trust. To prepare your company for a clean exit, your leadership team must operate as a unified front, not a collection of squabbling children.

The Integrator must establish a strict policy of zero tolerance for triangulation. The next time a director comes to complain about a peer, the Integrator should ask a simple question: Have you discussed this directly with them? If the answer is no, the conversation ends immediately. Send them back to resolve it between themselves.

If they have tried and failed, schedule a three-way meeting. But do not solve the problem for them. Instead, act as a facilitator. Force them to use the IDS process. First, identify the root cause of the conflict, which is usually a lack of alignment on the Accountability Chart or conflicting Scorecard metrics.

Have them discuss the issue openly, practicing the vulnerability required by Our Charter. Then, force them to agree on a solution that serves the greater good of the business, not their individual departments.

By refusing to tolerate gossip and forcing direct communication, you will build a culture of peer-to-peer accountability. This frees up your Integrator to focus on high-level strategy and operational efficiency, rather than managing avoidable interpersonal drama.