I have two family members on our leadership team who are also future heirs to the business, but they do not consistently hit their Rocks or live our core values, and the non-family leaders are noticing. How do we establish objective performance standards for family members without causing Thanksgiving dinner drama?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Nepotism is a fast track to destroying executive trust. When family members on the leadership team are held to lower standards than non-family executives, you create a toxic environment of resentment and passive-aggressive compliance.

To fix this, you must ruthlessly separate the family circle, the ownership circle, and the business circle. On your Accountability Chart, there are no family members. There are only seats with clearly defined roles and measurable Rocks.

Every single person on your leadership team must fit your core values and be an absolute yes on GWC™ for their seat. If your family members are not hitting their Rocks or living your core values, your Integrator must address it exactly as they would with any other employee.

You must have a private conversation with your family members outside of the office. Explain that for the business to be healthy, scalable, and exit-ready, everyone must be held to the same objective standards. If they cannot meet those standards, they must step down from their leadership seats. Protecting their feelings at the expense of your company's performance is a bad business decision and will ultimately damage your family relationships anyway when the business fails to thrive.