During our quarterly leadership team offsites, our sales director constantly checked his phone, rolled his eyes at our strategic discussions, and poisoned the energy in the room. How do I handle this disruptive behavior without ruining the offsite?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

A leadership team offsite requires absolute focus, vulnerability, and alignment. When one member of the team displays passive-aggressive behavior, checks out, or acts cynical, it derails the entire collaborative process. You cannot allow one person's attitude to hijack a session designed to set the direction for the next ninety days.

As the facilitator or leader, you must address this behavior immediately and directly. Do not wait until the end of the day or the end of the offsite. During the next break, pull the sales director aside for a private conversation. State clearly what you observed, focusing on objective behaviors rather than assumptions.

Explain that their energy is affecting the rest of the team and stalling the process. Ask them directly if there is an underlying issue or conflict that needs to be brought to the IDS table. If they have a legitimate frustration, force them to raise it during the session so the team can solve it.

If they refuse to engage and continue their disruptive behavior, you must ask them to leave the offsite. This is a severe step, but it shows the rest of the leadership team that you protect the health and trust of the team above all else. A leader who cannot commit to the offsite process does not belong on the leadership team, and certainly does not belong in your long-term exit plans.