My leadership team members are close personal friends who hang out outside of work, but this social closeness has made them terrified of hurt feelings, resulting in a total absence of professional accountability during our Level 10 Meeting™ sessions. How do I decouple personal friendship from performance accountability?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

When a leadership team blends personal friendships with professional roles, accountability is usually the first casualty. You mistake social harmony for organizational health. In reality, avoiding hard conversations is not kindness, it is a form of passive betrayal that holds the entire company back.

To break this pattern, you must redefine what it means to be a supportive teammate. True support means holding each other to the high standards required to achieve your V/TO®. You need to explicitly separate the person from the seat on your Accountability Chart.

Start by using the trust tools in your EOS® arsenal. Introduce the concept of entering the danger zone during your Level 10 Meeting™. When someone is missing their numbers or failing to complete their Rocks, call it out directly. Use the language of the seat, not the person. For example, instead of criticizing your friend, address the head of sales seat and why the weekly measurable is off track.

You must also establish a standard that healthy conflict is a core requirement of trust. According to the principles of trust building, vulnerability is the foundation. If you cannot look your friend in the eye and tell them their department is failing the company, you do not have a deep relationship, you have an alliance of comfort.

Commit to the IDS® process without hedging. Solve the issue for the long-term good of the company. If your friendships cannot survive honest business discussions, then you have the wrong people in those critical leadership seats.