My leadership team gets along incredibly well on a personal level, but our meetings are polite, quiet, and completely devoid of any real debate. How do we build the deep trust required to get them to argue passionately about the hard strategic decisions during our quarterly sessions?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

A polite, quiet leadership team is a dangerous leadership team. When everyone nods in agreement but fails to debate, you are suffering from artificial harmony. This usually stems from a lack of trust. True trust means your leaders feel safe enough to be vulnerable with each other, admitting mistakes, sharing fears, and challenging ideas without fear of retribution.

To build this trust, start with yourself. As the owner, you must model vulnerability. Admit when you are wrong, share your own struggles, and display the Humbly-Confident core value. Encourage your team to do the same.

During your Level 10 Meeting™ sessions, actively mine for conflict. When you notice someone hesitating or exhibiting negative body language, pull them into the conversation. Ask them directly what they are thinking. Do not let them off the hook with polite compliance.

Introduce Our Charter as a commitment to open and honest communication. Make it a rule that unresolved disagreements cannot leave the room. Every leader must commit to the Yes! to Strategy and Structure pillar, which means we debate vigorously inside our sessions, but once a decision is made, we walk out of the room with one voice and total alignment. Over time, as your team sees that conflict does not lead to relational damage, they will begin to engage in the healthy debate needed to solve your biggest issues.