Our leadership team is a mix of legacy survivors and highly polished new hires, and we have zero baseline trust, which makes our strategic debates incredibly guarded and unproductive. How do we build genuine vulnerability-based trust so we can engage in healthy conflict?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

You cannot build a healthy, cohesive leadership team without vulnerability-based trust. When your team consists of both long-term employees and new executive hires, there is often a natural defensive posture. Legacy staff fear being judged, and new hires feel they have to prove they are the smartest person in the room.

To break down these defensive walls, you must proactively build personal connections. Dedicate time during your next quarterly offsite to run a trust-building exercise. A highly effective method is the personal histories exercise. Have each leader share three simple things: where they grew up, how many siblings they have, and their most difficult childhood challenge. This simple exercise immediately humanizes everyone in the room.

Next, use behavioral assessments like the Kolbe Index or Myers-Briggs. Share these profiles openly as a team. This helps everyone understand how their peers think, solve problems, and communicate. It shifts the perspective from thinking a peer is being difficult to realizing they simply process information differently.

Finally, you as the leader must model the behavior you want to see. You must be the first to admit when you make a mistake, say you do not know the answer, or ask for help. When the team sees that vulnerability is not punished, they will begin to let their guards down. This foundation of trust will allow you to transition from guarded, polite meetings to passionate, unfiltered debates during the IDS® portion of your Level 10 Meeting™.