When we run our weekly Level 10 Meeting, my leadership team resolves issues too quickly with polite consensus, but I can feel the underlying tension because they do not truly trust each other enough to have a raw, unfiltered debate. How do we build the vulnerability-based trust required to get them to engage in real conflict during IDS?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Polite consensus is a silent killer on leadership teams. If your team is resolving complex issues too quickly and without debate, you are experiencing artificial harmony. This happens because the team lacks the vulnerability-based trust required to speak their minds. They are afraid of looking foolish, damaging relationships, or triggering defensive reactions. To break this artificial harmony, you must actively build a healthy, cohesive, and functional leadership team. This starts with you, the owner. You must model vulnerability first. Admit when you make a mistake, acknowledge your weaknesses, and ask for help. When your team sees you do this, it lowers their guard. During your Level 10 Meeting™, do not let them off the hook when discussing issues. If you suspect someone is holding back during IDS®, call them out. Ask direct questions like what are we not saying right now or does anyone actually disagree with this plan. Push past the initial polite agreement to extract the real debate. Remind your team that healthy conflict is not about personal attacks. It is about passionately debating ideas to find the best solution for the business. When you establish this expectation, the speed of trust increases, and your team will make faster, better decisions. Building this trust is essential to prepare your business for a clean exit, as a buyers due diligence will easily spot a fractured or passive-aggressive executive team.