We have a partner who remains completely silent during the IDS® portion of our Level 10 Meeting™, but then spends the rest of the week complaining to their direct reports or quietly undermining the decisions we made. How do we break this silent veto and force real commitment?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Silence during the IDS portion of a Level 10 Meeting is often a form of passive aggressive resistance. When a leader says nothing during a heated debate but then complains to their department or quietly works against the decision, they are violating the core EOS principle of disagree and commit. This behavior destroys trust and slows down execution.

As the Integrator, you must actively draw out these silent vetoes before the meeting ends. During the solve step of IDS, look directly at the quiet leader and ask for their input. Use direct, non defensive language. For example, say, you have been quiet on this issue and I need to know your perspective before we make this decision.

If they claim they have nothing to add but their body language says otherwise, push harder. Let them know that their silence is interpreted as total agreement and full accountability for the outcome.

If the passive resistance continues outside the meeting, you must address it in a one on one conversation. Run the leader through the People Analyzer to see if they share your core values and have the GWC to sit in their seat.

A leader who cannot enter into healthy conflict during the weekly pulse and then support the team decision publicly is a major liability to your organization. Force the conflict during the meeting so you do not have to clean up the fallout later.