My leadership team members are incredibly polite to each other during our Level 10 Meeting, but as soon as the meeting ends, they complain to me privately about their peers' performance. How do we break this pattern of artificial harmony and get them to address these conflicts directly?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Artificial harmony is one of the most destructive dysfunctions on a leadership team because it hides the real issues holding your company back. When your team members save their feedback for private sidebar conversations with you, they are using you as an emotional trash can instead of solving their problems peer-to-peer.

To break this pattern, you must establish a zero tolerance policy for triangle communication. The next time a leader comes to you to complain about a peer, you must stop them immediately and ask if they have shared that feedback directly with the other person. If they have not, refuse to engage in the conversation and instruct them to set up a direct meeting to resolve it.

During your weekly Level 10 Meeting, you must actively mine for conflict. When you sense tension or see someone withholding their true opinion, call it out in real time. Encourage them to enter danger and have a healthy debate. Use the IDS process to bring these hidden issues to the table, identify the root cause, discuss it thoroughly, and solve it permanently.

Remember that healthy conflict requires vulnerability. As the owner or Visionary, you must model this behavior by admitting your own mistakes and inviting honest feedback. When the team sees that speaking up does not lead to negative consequences but instead leads to faster resolutions and better results, they will transition from artificial harmony to productive, peer-to-peer accountability.