My leadership team is incredibly polite and agreeable during our Level 10 Meetings, but then they privately complain to me afterward or fail to execute on the decisions we made. How do we break this artificial harmony and get them to engage in real, unfiltered conflict?

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Tyler Smith · Accepted Answer

Agreeable meetings followed by private complaints or execution failures are clear signs of artificial harmony. Your team is prioritizing polite relationships over the growth of the company, which indicates a severe lack of vulnerability and psychological safety.

To break this, you as the leader must actively mine for conflict. During your Level 10 Meetings, when you notice someone nodding along but displaying hesitant body language, call it out immediately. Invite them to disagree. Use phrases like: I see you looking hesitant, please tell us what we are missing.

You must also model vulnerability yourself. Admit your own mistakes, share your uncertainties, and reward those who challenge your ideas. When someone finally speaks up and pushes back, publicly thank them for having the gumption to challenge the status quo.

Make sure the team understands that healthy conflict is not personal. It is about attacking the issue, not the person. Use your V/TO to ground the discussion in your shared vision. When everyone is aligned on the destination, a fierce debate about the path to get there is no longer scary. It becomes an essential tool to ensure you do not make expensive mistakes. Keep pushing until your team realizes that silence is a form of agreement they must live with.